PASSING JUDGMENT ON MEN Self Help Articles | April 9 Wholesale Milan Lucic Jersey , 2005

At one time or another most women have indulged in a session of male criticism with their girlfriends. This is an addictive ritual many women allow themselves when they are feeling fed up with the men in their lives. Addictive; because it sets off a chain reaction. Once a group of women get started with their complaints about their not so perfect partners, the remaining women in the group tend to join in and a huge bonding session begins about how ?awful? men are. Unfair generalisations are made, and these conversations really become destructive to women?s self-esteem and their malefemale relationships.



The more that women that indulge in these so-called bonding session with their girlfriends or simply carry around this negative type of thinking, the more addictive and negative these thought processes become and this kind of talk tends to become a natural reaction to any upset concerning their male partners. That is not to say that there is anything wrong with venting when angry or upset Wholesale Darnell Nurse Jersey , however there is a difference between healthy venting to a female friend and constantly whinging and whining to each another about men in general. Perhaps some women really don?t understand how destructive and negative this behaviour is.


Women may ask: What about men with misogynist attitudes towards women, who that treat women badly. Misogynistic men exist, make no mistake, however not all men are misogynists. Most men are genuine Wholesale Tobias Rieder Jersey , decent, caring human beings who want to be loved, just as women do. Before I go any further on, I would like to point out that I do not advocate any woman remaining in a relationship with a man who is abusive emotionally or physically. This article is about women who are somewhat dissatisfied with their male partner. I am hoping that instead of disparaging and judging the men in their lives they would like effect change in a positive way.


How many times do some women Wholesale Ryan Strome Jersey , when angry at their men, make generalised statements attacking the men in their lives or for that matter every man in the universe? Some examples could be:

Men are inconsiderate Men are selfish Men are liars Men cause women pain

Could it be possible that we as women can turn these generalised statements into positive affirmations about men? These statements could read:

Men are considerate Men are generous Men are honest Men give us happiness

It is possible that once we focus on having a positive frame of mind, a few more positive affirmations could be added to this list? Like attracts like, and positive actions and words will attract the positive. If you look for the negative aspects within your relationships with men Wholesale Adam Larsson Jersey , you will find them. If women really believe all of these negative statements about their men exist, then it is highly possible these negative qualities lie within themselves. The saying: ?What we see in others somewhere exists in us,? is true. Attempting to change our negative beliefs into positive beliefs is no easy task, however it can be done. Negative thoughts and feelings have become an addiction in society. This could be the first step towards narrowing the gap between men and women and breaking free of our negative addictions. Perhaps its time women had a close look at themselves and really search with their hearts and minds for the truth here. Women are more than capable to bring about some changes here; after all we are the nurturers and caregivers of society. We can turn this negative thinking around and make it positive Wholesale Kris Russell Jersey , all we need is to tap into our potential as women.


It is also possible that when we make a habit of putting men down, women are unknowingly destroying any chance of intimacy and closeness with the men in their lives. Men know women do this. Does any woman out there truly believe that men aren?t aware of the fact that we talk negatively behind their backs? Well they know. Men know when we are holding in negative thoughts, and they detest this kind of behaviour. Men see this as manipulative behaviour and they would prefer honest communication. When we constantly complain about our men, any chance of developing our relationship into a loving one goes down the toilet. Do women really believe that their man will open up to them if they are constantly put down and criticized? Not a chance and men would crazy to open up under those circumstances.


Men do want intimacy and they want to open up to women Wholesale Wayne Gretzky Jersey , but they don?t know how. Men were trained from childhood not to show their feelings. In today?s society it is starting to become more acceptable for men to open up; however a lot of men still don?t feel it?s safe to open up. As women, we could be more aware and understanding of this, given that opening up to our feelings is much easier for us, because we find it a completely natural thing to do. Women are relationship and emotion oriented Wholesale Connor McDavid Jersey , whereas men are thinkers and solution orientated. Women also need to remember that men express intimacy differently, they create situations of intimacy by doing certain things for us and men don?t share their feelings in the same way that a woman may share feelings with a close girlfriend. Your man is not the same as your best girlfriend.